Watersports and ‘piss play’ might’ve been terms for sexual turn-ons that your average joe wouldn’t be aware of… Until last week on the internet, that is.
Brass Against have dominated headlines since lead singer Sophia Urista peed on an audience member (who willingly volunteered as tribute) while performing on-stage at Florida festival Welcome To Rockville. If you want, you can watch the whole NSFW antics here.
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Urista has since publicly apologised, saying she “pushed the limits too far” when she chucked a squat and intentionally pissed on said volunteer as Brass Against covered Rage Against The Machine’s ‘Wake Up’ (lol, if the guy wasn’t awake, he is now).
And tbh… it looked like he was having the time of his life!.
So what is it about pee that some people seem to find so hot?
Well put down your drink (or scull it ;)) because here’s everything you need to know about piss play.
What exactly is it?
Piss play is usually referred to in the kink world as watersports but it’s proper name is urolagnia or urophilia. It’s when you’re excited or turned on by the thought, sight, taste or feel of urine.
It’s hard to know how common the fetish is, but one Australian survey showed that 4% of men were into watersports, and a survey from the UK had similar stats for women with around 3.5% of women reportedly fantasising about urinating on (or being urinated on) by a partner.
Why the golden wizz?
To answer those pressing questions, we turn to Mistress Tokyo, a Sydney-based kink educator and dominatrix. She says there’s lots of different reasons people are into piss play. For some people they love the visual element of urine “a spurt of liquid coming out of the object of desire,” the ejaculation can be a visual indication of an orgasm.
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Then there’s the power dynamic of it. Submitting to the piss of someone who’s more dominant, or vice versa, is it’s own kind of role play.
Another reason people might be into urine is the tabooness of it. Pee is usually seen as something private, or dirty. The naughtiness of “crossing a line of a taboo” might turn someone on.
It might make you feel super close to the person you’re with, experiencing something that’s come from their body.
“It is so redolent of the body’s products, it smells like the body, it is at body temperature, it’s all of these things that are welcoming.”
Or you could just like getting wet and messy.
“I think with any BDSM play, you can really think about the why – but you don’t have to, you can just enjoy it because you think it’s a little bit kinky.”
Different ways people are watersportin’
The most common way people are playing with pee, is called a ‘golden shower.’
You might know that one – it’s even worked its way into an international scandal involving Donald Trump and Russian spies – but it’s basically just the act of getting pissed on. And that can look like basically anything.
Mistress Tokyo says you could be “between the legs, or underneath, laying on the floor or in the bath, or on the third floor, or on the grass, or out in the backyard, on the pool table, wherever you want to do it really.”
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People can also have a fetish for the liquid itself.
Mistress Tokyo says the guy who kept her urine is obviously on the extreme end, and sometimes it can be as simple as watching or listening to someone pee – in the shower, or even inside someone during sex.
Ok, but is it safe?
Firstly, Mistress Tokyo says in any type of watersports, consent is the most important part.
“If you were to ever go into this style of play, ensure that you are both equally desirous of the play, or equally curious in a boundaried way.
It’s also important to have safe words at all time – eg. red, yellow and green, red meaning stop, yellow meaning slow down, and green meaning Heck Yes.”
Mistress Tokyo informs everyone she works with about the potential health risks, because despite the rumours, *cough Bear Grylls cough* urine actually isn’t sterile. It’s got bacteria in it.
“The fact you are consuming products that are cast off from the human body – and that if I had something that could be transmissible by urine, blood borne viruses and and things like that – , then there’s a possibility that they could contract that blood borne virus.”
“If you’re unsure, get educated. You can always go to your local sexual health resources.”
At the end of the day, Mistress Tokyo preaches when it comes to all things stigmas and sex: “don’t worry about what other people are doing, just do you.”
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